I was sitting here earlier and came across a post from a fellow blogger that made me stop and think about my life. More specifically to all the triumphs I’ve had despite my failures. Yes I’m talking about you thehappywappyblog. You can click the following link to find the post that got me on this thought process here: Confidence Booster!
A few months ago I started a project for a friend of mine. I wanted to do something to cheer her up. The project was a bit bigger than I expected, and I haven’t completed it yet. Not for a lack of not caring about her anymore or anything like that, I’ve just not been able to finish because it’s a lot of work; I really hope she isn’t reading this.
While I generally try to be a positive person, there are moments when I have to be really intentional about loving myself. To make an effort not to tear myself down, and to feel like I’m enough. While I’ve not had any kind of mental, physical, or deep financial turmoil in my life. I’ve been fortunate to not have any health or mental issues, despite that I’ve not been entirely content with my life. In a way I suppose that’s actually more normal than abnormal. Who really is 100% content with the way their life is, after all there is a Life Coaching and Self-Help Industry.
In the lead up to the project for my friend, I started writing some quotes, things that I try to tell myself regularly. My thinking is that to love another person, you first have to love yourself. If you don’t love yourself first, it doesn’t matter how great the other person is, you may be asking them for too much. Relationships are already hard on their own, putting more burden on the other person, to love you more than you love yourself, might not be a task for everyone. I think the most important thing to any kind of success, whether it be career, family, or relationship; is for you to love yourself first. The truth is there will be large portions of time when you’ll be by yourself, not in a lonely kinda way. You might be driving, sleeping, working etc. Other’s may not be talking to or interacting with you, but you are in your own head. What better place to start loving yourself than in your own head.
Here are a few of the quotes I like the most, and thought I’d share, enjoy!
- Tell yourself “I Love you” speak loving words to yourself at every opportunity you get. Be conscious of your negative self-talk. If you find that you’re being negative to yourself, then change those occurrences to positive words.
- Yes you’re broken, it’s OK. The truth is EVERYONE is a little broken. Your mistakes don’t define your life, they do however add dept to the wonder that is YOU. Even the most beautiful things have cracks, and in most cases they add to it’s beauty and character.
- Whenever you look in the mirror today, tell yourself “I Love You” “I’m Enough.”
- You can find small victories despite your circumstances. Believing that you can is the first step. Don’t let one bad occurrence corrupt your entire day.
- YOU are everything you need. You don’t need anyone else to complete you, perhaps compliment. You’re already complete; thinking of yourself in this way allows you to feel more self-love.
- Tell yourself I am worthy, and I have value as an individual.
- From time to time we all fail at various things. But failing at one thing doesn’t make our entire life a failure.
- Learn to sometimes be in the moment, if you’re too focused on the past or future, you may miss the good in-front of you TODAY.
- ALWAYS do your best, sometimes that means you can only give 50%. If that’s what your capable of that day, then give that. Tomorrow is a new day you can do more then, just don’t overcompensate for what you didn’t do today!
- Sometimes you have to “fake it until you make it.” If you think positively, that could eventually lead you to start feeling that way.
- Learn to “Let it Go” occupying your time with thoughts of negative self worth only leaves you feeling defeated and depressed. Learning to let go of thing you can’t control is a great step towards Self-Love.
If nothing else I’ve said so far resonates with you, remember that you’re the person best capable of loving YOU. Others may try, but they can’t love you quite like you love yourself, after all you’re the one walking in your shoes. Treat yourself with love, care and grace. Speaking affirming words also applies to yourself, don’t forget to compliment yourself; of course I don’t mean any of this in a narcissistic way.