Accepting who I am!

It’s been some time since I’ve written, and I feel as though I’ve learnt so many lessons that I don’t know; where to begin! I guess I’ll go with Happiness. For those of you who actually read my various rants, you’ve probably started to see a theme, that I’m on a self-improvement kick, and I’m learning to accept certain things. What I’m not saying is that you should just accept who you are, if you hate yourself, then NO don’t accept that. I’ve been slowly making some progress, I’ve been trying to align my personal and spiritual life. Instead of focusing on the things I can’t control, I’m putting my energy to being more Loving, more Kind, and Tender. For me I feel those three are the basic tenants to life.

I’ve felt a transformation in myself, and I think others are starting to notice it too. I’m happier, and I do things without expecting anything in return, I’m learning to be more selfless rather than selfish. I have to say though it’s been a struggle, I can’t always be the happy optimistic person, I do have my bad days sometimes. What’s remarkable though is that I’ve been following other’s who are far more experienced than I, and even they have bad days. So the lesson in that is even the experts have problems staying happy all the time. So a novice such as myself (that what I think of myself), it’s no wonder that I have my daily struggles.

Part of being Happy with myself also involves being happy with where I am. I’ve seen how my new perspective on life has helped others. I’ve come to believe that I have a gift for helping others understand the unknown, or perhaps just confirming what they already know. It’s been a journey exploring that, learning to be connected to others. To sense their pain and struggles without being told. I have to say that’s been the most remarkable part of all this. I’m definitely a believer in prayer and meditation, I know that we all have our own Gods; not to worry I’m not judging you, but I think it’s important to believe in a higher power.

Before I get too carried away in this, I should make this last point. I’m starting to believe that everything I’ve experienced in all of my life, has lead me here. I’m here at this exact moment, because there is someone reading this, hearing exactly what they need to hear, at this exact moment. YOU’RE exactly where YOU need to be, yes things have happened in the past. However if you’re reading this, perhaps for the first time you’re ready to receive this message. The past is behind us, you can’t change it, but the Universe or God (depends on your belief system), has given you many opportunities to see this lesson. The only thing you really have control over is what you do next, the past has already happened, it’s too late. But you can make the decision to be happy in the next minute. As I stated earlier I’m struggling to keep this up daily. However it’s transformational, there are so many things that I’ve been struggling to stop doing, now I don’t think about them as much, not that I’ve replaced that with Happiness. Just to be clear I’m not talking about that momentary happiness you get, say when you eat Ice Cream, or get Roses. I’m talking about the one that starts from within you, and grows out like a light. So let your light shine out, let it take you on an adventure, wake up tomorrow seeing the world for the first time. Recognizing that you’re here today, because you’re dreams are just around the corner.

What is Love?


     I’ve recently been thinking about my life, and how I can live a more fulfilling life. I’d like to be the kind of person who makes others feel better, lift them up, make them feel empowered. But with my own problems to deal with how can I do that, how do I not become another unkind, uncaring, selfish person? The answer is to live a life of Love, Kindness, and Care. This quote from an article I saw summed it up best. (Check out What does Love Want)

Love is like water flowing, dancing down a riverbed. Embracing everything it encounters, water (love) flows smoothly around jagged rocks, finding its way brilliantly into and through the tiniest openings of any obstacle; it never stresses itself to flow uphill or fight against its own perfectly natural way. Sometimes, when amassed in significant strength, the immense force of water’s (love’s) own pure nature can completely obliterate everything in its path!

     A constant though that I’ve been having is that love is more like a state of being’ rather than a list of criteria we have to check off of a list. But how do you get to that state of being, Welcome to your next challenge, it’s not going to be easy, and you will have to battle this daily, but I’m going to stand by this. Of course I’m currently living this new skill, so I’m still in the experimental stage, but others much smarter than me stand by it. Living a life filled with Love, Tenderness, and Kindness isn’t easy, so how do you do it?

     To get a better understanding lets use anger, let’s say you want to get rid of anger or conflict that you’re feeling. Instead of focusing on not getting angry (by the way feelings like anger are normal, you can’t not feel them), focus on being more kind, or loving. One thing to consider is that being kind isn’t about you; you shouldn’t do something kind because you will gain something. You should be kind just because. Because you want someone to get a pleasant experience, or feel loved just because you have a deep feeling that they deserve love.

     So what does this mean, if your goal is to get rid of Rage, Anger, Harsh Words, Malice don’t focus on those feelings, focus on Kindness, Tenderness, and Forgiveness. To compare kindness is easy, it’s liked, it doesn’t worry or cast blame. So by practicing kindness you’ll get one step closer to Love, the state of being rather than a laundry list of things you’re looking to accomplish. Imagine how different the world would be if people were more kind, tender and forgiving. I’ve noticed that in practicing this way of refocusing my life, I’ve felt much better at work, in life, and at home. What’s remarkable is that I feel that people around me are starting to sense that something is different, but now the secret is out. I’ve been meditating, praying and acting with more love, kindness, and forgiveness. So let’s start a trend with us enlightened few, we can start mending the world.